The last few weeks I’ve been making some major changes in my life and it got me thinking about why we get paralyzed by change? Why don’t we carry out the decision to start that new exercise routine, or quit that job we don’t like. I always love new things, so I feel, compared to Angel, I’m more open to new adventures. Although I still get nervous and anxious when making changes in my life.
We are all creatures of habit. We love to do things the same way everyday. Putting our brain on autopilot means less mental work. Change equals making a habit switch, something that most of us don’t like to do or want to do. Whenever we want to improve an aspect of our life we do a habit switch. It doesn’t mean you would stop doing something completely, but you will have to replace it with something different. One of my friends is a coffee drinker. When she is stressed she can make several trips to Starbucks in a day. She is always “quitting” coffee but she still struggles with it. In order for her to succeed, she needs to replace the habit of drinking coffee with something else, hopefully something less additive and healthier. So when she’s stressed she can still have something that gives her comfort and helps her get through the stresses of the day.
You might not allow changes in your life due to fear. That is a strong emotion that in many cases is hard to control. Something that has worked for me is to write about my emotions. Journaling is a big tool when it comes to expressing your emotions and sorting things out. What are you afraid of? Why haven’t you taken that step forward towards change? Write those things down as they come to you.
A day at the time
When we think of changes we think of something major that has to happen overnight, but what we don’t realize is that any major change doesn’t happen overnight. I didn’t quit my job overnight, it took a year (probably more) of small little changes that led me to that decision. A few months ago I stopped eating cereal and I started eating granola cereal instead. It was a gradual change and now I don’t have cereal at all for breakfast. One day at a time I made a choice towards a big change.
Allowing changes in our life, big or small, means growth. If we don’t consciously participate in change, life somehow throws changes at us so we can grow. I’m a firm believer we are here to experience life and to better ourselves. If we don’t allow change we are missing the point and wasting our time! If something doesn’t work, fix it, don’t just wait there hoping it will be better someday. Take action, make a change.